Fearing change

I can only write about my life and how I have experienced things changing over the past few years. My experience is all I have so I hope it somehow speaks to you and CHANGES how you see things from here on out.

We go through life knowing that things and people will change, Circumstances, situations and even our thought patterns. It isn’t something to be surprised by yet when change becomes a possibility in our lives it could be that we will try our hardest to convince ourselves that things are fine the way they are. You see there are two types of change, the kind we control and the kind we don’t.


If I have decided I want to start playing guitar, there are certain things I need to do in order to learn how to play ( get a guitar, go for lessons, practice etc… ) BUT if I want to be a really great musician then I need to make a change and be more dedicated to learning. If I don’t physically and mentally change the way I think and play I am not just going to magically get better.

I have always been the type of person that loves the idea of change but when it actually is time for me to change I am stubborn as heck and I find every excuse in the book to actually change. It is only recently that I have come to a place where I am realizing that change not only grows me, it shapes me into the very person that I need to be. Why am I so afraid of change you might ask? For me it was about being scared of failing or disappointing myself or others. again I go back to the ” learning to play guitar ” ( insert your own situation here ) I know that once I learn to play guitar it is going to take discipline and dedication from my end. Before I have even started I think of why its not possible, I start to think well – I don’t think I am going to be that good, so I don’t even try. I already set myself up for failure in my mind because that way I don’t have to change my mindset, I don’t have to change my schedule. I basically don’t have to change anything so I convince myself out of needing to play.

Wether we like it or not we need change, it is not always a bad thing. It just requires us to change our attitude towards what it means. Think about a situation in your life where you might want your need something to change. For me it is the walls I have built around my heart, due to many things that have happened in my life it has cause me to shut down in a lot of areas and it has made me a very different person to who I used to be. Now if I want to change it is going to require me to become desperate, so desperate that I will do anything to make a change. Maybe you do too?


If you change the way you look at thing, the things you look at change. I had been in my lounge having a quiet time thinking about ALL the things I needed to do to change I thought aaah man there is so much. How will I ever get to a different place? God quickly asked me ( Tami, when your mind wonders where does it go? Do you run to your problems or do you run to me? ) I was so challenged by that because I knew what my answer was and it wasn’t Jesus!

Right then and there I realized that I need to not only change but I actually needed to change how I think about changing. Instead of focusing on the problem, I need to focus on God the one that brings about the change. It isn’t easy but it all comes down to how desperate are you for something to shift. Being afraid to change is ok as long as we don’t live in that fear.

” Your eyes are the lamp to our body ”

Ps Phil Dooley

how you see can take time but don’t give up. Just keep repeating the right thing even if nothing changes, eventually it will change.



Maybe there has been a breakdown in relationship that was out of your control ( someone betrayed your trust, or hurt you in some way, shape or form or maybe somebody in your life passed away, it could even be a job change or the dreams you have seem to be slipping through your fingers ) When we can’t control change it is a horrible feeling because we did not see that coming or we weren’t ready for it.

” Not everything stays the same… but it doesn’t mean it’s purpose changes when it’s position changes “

Powerful statement right? I was scrolling through Instagram one day and saw this caption by damianeddidit ( if you don’t follow him yet you really should ) Anyway I absolutely love what this statement meant to me in this season I am in and where I think a lot of us may find ourselves in sometime or another.

When Change happens and it is out of our control we may feel powerless, all of a sudden you realize that you are a very small fish in this huge sea called life. Gods purpose and plan for your life is set in stone, it is not possible for God to lie. He is both Grace and truth which means that he knows life is unpredictable, he knows we make mistakes, he know we might make certain decisions in life that might throw us of course for a bit. God is full of Grace and Grace covers all the uncertainty, mistakes, loss, pain, regret…

It Doesn’t take away the TRUTH of his word and promises for our lives. If God has put a dream in your heart it does not matter what your job title is, how much money you make, who your friends are etc…. The decisions we make only determine the amount of time it might take us to get there but it does not change the fact that God has called you to be a world changer.



3 comments / Add your comment below

  1. B says:

    His is profound, vulnerable and most of all encouraging- so much encouraging it is freeing!

    Really am inspired by your journey & thankful for this timely post!

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