Chances are you have let your feelings get the better of you. Growing and becoming a stronger person sounds amazing and everyone wants to be that, yet we stay in the same place because the way to getting there is pretty hard if I am just being real here.
What I have realised in the past couple of years is that life is made up of decisions and the decisions we make will affect our futures. That may be something you have heard before YET we still continue making bad decisions that affect our growth and affect who we will become one day.
How can you grow into being a better leader, a better friend, a better mother/father, a better Student and in general just the best version of yourself?
1: You never ARRIVE.
The quicker I realised that, immediately that pressure to be the best was no longer there. Now of cause, you don’t just want to become lazy and do the opposite but for me realising that I will never get to a point where I know it all, helped me to keep running my own race and move forward in the plan that I know is set for me, instead of comparing myself to someones else’s journey. I have taken the stance of I will never graduate from learning even if I feel I know something well. Having a teachable spirit is the key to growing in my opinion.
2: It’s not about having the FEELS.
If we did everything in this life by the way we felt on the day I think we would be in trouble. Sometimes doing what needs to be done goes against what you feel but that is when I have realised that my life is not about me, it is about something so much bigger. So is yours, you and me were put on this earth to show people that there is good in the world and that love is the answer. So with that being said, sometimes that requires us to do things that are out of our comfort zone. It requires us to do things even though we may be tired. It requires us to be nice to someone that maybe is not nice back to you. If it means that others lives will be changed because of it then I would say that it’s all worth it in the end.
3: It’s not about MY agenda.
The end goal to being the best version of yourself is not to get something at the end of it all, whether that be a raise in paycheck or recognition of some sort, a promotion or a pat on the back. Being a better you is about growing your character so that the next generation can follow in your footsteps. So that you can help someone else going through a similar issue. It really isn’t about you, it isn’t about me.
4: Keep going DO NOT give up.
Longevity is a major key to growth and becoming stronger in our character. When something is not going quite how you expected, that is ok. We can not fool ourselves into thinking that we can do any of this life on our own. At the end of the day, we are human and we will have bad days where we might want to give up, but when you have others on your side it becomes a lot easier and the road does not seem so long. You start to see the path as an adventure instead of an end goal that you feel you will never reach.
Life is a journey and we will mess up, we will not always get it right but that is. All we can do is live life the best we know how, realising 1. we never arrive 2. its bigger than our feelings 3. Its not our agenda 4. Keep going and don’t give up.