I am not sure if you have ever been in a situation where you are nervous about something. It could be preparing to talk in front of a large group of people ( like an Oral at school, or presentation at varsity etc ) or just one person for that matter. Or in my case leading worship at church, and you turn to your friend and say “oh my gosh I am so nervous” and they say to “you will be fine… JUST BE YOURSELF “. Now that is a lot easier said than done, especially when you do not know who you are.
As I have grown up I have not always been confident and out going in fact I would not say that I have both those thing covered now either. Although there have been some major things that have helped me become more confident, more out going and I have learnt to stand up for myself in many areas.
I would love to share some of those things with you that have helped me to step into being ‘ME’ not you, or the girl/guy down the street or that person who just seems to get everything they want. If learning to be YOU is all you have learned this year then I can guarantee that you will be stepping into a future that is so free and liberating.
Let me start off by saying that we are all on a journey and no one arrives and gets to a place where they have it all so this is not a race to try get to the finish line a soon as you can. There have been 3 things in my life that have helped me on this journey.
1. I MET JESUS
I could not have carried on my journey in life without Jesus. In 2010 I realized that I can not do this life on my own. With years of striving and trying to be someone I am not, left me feeling alone and desperate for a savior.
I committed my life to being soled out for God and building his Church because my life without him was empty, meaningless and I knew that if I wanted to know what it was like to live a full life I needed to know the God that gave me that life.
It’s in knowing Jesus Christ that I have come to know who I am because it says in his word that we are made in his image. Genesis 1:27-28
2. QUIT THE COMPARING GAME
As soon as you realize that comparing yourself to somebody else is pointless and takes you down a road only to destroy you, the better your life will become. Nobody is perfect, even that person you wish your life could be like… Their life is not perfect. The Grass is greener where you water it!
I had to stop looking to others for affirmation. People are not perfect and they are unpredictable so therefore they will let you down, so if we look to people to make us feel better or constantly look at others lives wishing you some how had what they had ,it only leaves us feeling alone, sad and always seeking love from the wrong place. I learnt for me that God is the only constant in my life and I can go to him for anything. As Ps Brian, Senior Pastor of Hillsong Church says “Comparison is a deadly game you cannot win. You’ll always come second. There will always be someone better looking, smarter, more spiritual or seem to get more breaks”
Start living YOUR life the best you know how. YOU be the best friend you can be instead of trying to see who can be friends with you. YOU be kind, generous and genuine instead of wondering why others are not doing that to you. YOU be YOU because only you can carry out the God calling that he has placed on your life.
3. REPLACE YOUR THOUGHTS WITH GOD THOUGHTS
It says in Proverbs 23;7 it say ‘For as he thinketh within himself, so is he’
Your own mind can sometime be your worst enemy. Most of the things we think in our mind are not even true mostly because they are not positive thoughts. Anything that is in our thoughts that are pulling us down or is making us feel less than or insecure are not from God but from the enemy. Mark 10:10 says that the enemy has come to Kill steal and destroy but God has come to give us life and life in abundance.
As soon as I catch myself thinking negatively I remember what the bible says about me and about what God wants for my life because that is the truth. here are some verses that have encouraged me in my journey.
I hope that these lessons I have learnt over the years can help you to be the best YOU that God has created you to be.
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