I have met and know so many women who want to look good, improve their style, try new things etc…. but they have no idea where to start. To some women shopping is not always a fun outing or mother daughter bonding time but if you are like me it is your idea of fun and you could do it all day and probably still be wishing you had more hours in the day to shop.
Ladies it doesn’t alway have to be a long drawn out process to shop I believe that with just a little bit of planning in the beginning you can build your wardrobe to have everything you need and also those spoils that every lady deserves.
I have learnt that there are a few steps that can help you not only have the wardrobe you want and develop your own personal style but I believe these steps can help you to have a positive body image without comparison. Who’s in?
1. Know your body type.
This is the first fundamental step to know what suits you and what fits you perfectly and moulds to the curves you have or don’t have. A lot of us tend to compare ourselves to our friends and think that something looks better on them than it does on you in-fact that may be true because there might be something that you look better in than another woman. Lets embraces our differences and stop comparing.
A positive body image is developed by realising that not everything will suit you, not every colour will match your skin tone and just because the magazines or social media says a certain style is in this season does not mean that you need to follow that trend. I think if we can all learn to love our own bodies getting dressed in the morning will not be a fight or struggle.
There are 4 main body types:
The following are the four most common female body shapes:
Apple (triangle downward)
Apple-shaped women have broader shoulders and bust, and narrower hips.
Banana, or straight (rectangular)
Banana-shaped women’s waist measurement is less than 9 inches smaller than the hip or bust measurement.
Pear, Spoon, or Bell (triangle upward)
Pear-shaped women’s hip measurements are greater than their bust measurements.
Hourglass Shape (triangles opposing, facing in)
Here, the hip and bust are almost of equal size, with a narrow waist.
A study of more than 6,000 women conducted at North Carolina State University in 2005 revealed that 46% of women were banana-shaped; just over 20% were pear-shaped; just under 14% were apple-shaped; and only 8% were hourglass-shaped. The hourglass is normally accepted as the “ideal” female shape in Western countries.
There is a scripture in the bible Psalm 139:13-16 that says -:
Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
2. Know what it is you are looking for.
If you know from the start what it is that you need and what it is that you want then going shopping is going will be way more enjoyable and for those who don’t consider shopping fun, you actually might start enjoying yourself. What I would suggest is create a check list or better yet just use this one below to begin with.
This is just a helpful start to get you going. What I would suggest is printing this page out and and start ticking off what you already have in your wardrobe. If you already have all these essential pieces then click here to go on my pinterest page to see many other capsule wardrobe inspirations that suit your style better. When you go shopping have this list on hand and try your best not to shop fore anything else until you have these items first.
I have also come to notice that if I know what message it is that I want to portray to others it will be alot easier to shop and get dressed. For example I know that when I get dressed I want people to know that I value myself, I value my body and by showing to much skin will not be a true reflection of who I know I am meant to be.
There is a scripture in the bible 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 that says -:
3. Shop Online.
I was never a fan of shopping online until I realised how much it actually helped me with my budget and having a knowledge of what is out there and what the prices are of clothing these days. Even if you don’t actually buy online you can still browse. It is pretty much like window shopping but from the comfort of your own home.
4. Stay inspired
It is always good to get inspired and let me be honest I have gotten a lot of what I wear just from getting inspired from what I see on pinterest or instagram. Which leads me to an important point. Who are you choosing to follow. A good body image could just be a few clicks away. Why don’t you unfollowing accounts that make you feel less than. What you surround yourself with is what your mind will be consumed with. Having a positive body image can be hard in this day and age but I also do believe that if we are allowing negative imagery into our lives it is not setting us up for a win. Choose today to follow people that make you feel good about yourself.
Below are a list of amazing accounts that I follow that I think you would love: