Do you often feel scared but excited at the same when you’re transitioning into a new chapter of life? I definitely do! The anticipation towards what I’m busy stepping into, even though it is a dream or goal, can be very straining to me. Knowing however that change is necessary for me to excel in life, to avoid being stagnant and reach greater heights, I can not allow the anxiety of the process to weigh me down.
I feel that ones 20s is all about change. Changing friendship circles, moving from university to the real world, for many from dating to marriage and often job to job. This is because we are in that rapid period of finding our identity and choosing to pursue that which we believe is sowing into the future we desire for ourselves. The reason why I referred to change as daunting is because many of us fear leaving the past behind us, which is totally understandable, but it has to be done and through that we will be liberated.
- Friendship’s that need change.
Something that can hold us back in life is the wrong friendship circles. Seriously, I don’t know why we feel so compelled to stay in a friendship that is unhealthy for us. This is one of the common things we don’t allow change to take place in because of fear, but I urge you, your friends play a role in how your today is shaped, they can either be a vessel for opportunities and goodness or drag you down a path that will have a ripple effect on your future.
- Real world check-in
This is my current very anxious place, the move of university into the life of being a real person (because we all know university allows you a lot more freedom). I am currently wrapping up my degree and the next step is work. To be honest, I haven’t yet gotten that ahhh-haaa moment to mastering this, but I can feel that I am on my way. I really am starting to realise that things will change quickly. Maybe someone out there is going to make a decision that will change everything, my advice to you is hold on, its going to be a rocky road but you have the power to determine your attitude towards it and that will get you far.
I love how Jesus Christ was human and how his humanity is the best example of living that we can aspire to. His life was all about change, from leaving heaven to earth, his birth to his first miracle and from earth to the cross. Jesus’ eyes was always on the end goal, salvation, and that helped him conquer every season of change. If He could do it, so can we.
“Christ arrives right on time to make this happen. He didn’t, and doesn’t, wait for us to get ready. He presented himself for this sacrificial death when we were far too weak and rebellious to do anything to get ourselves ready. And even if we hadn’t been so weak, we wouldn’t have known what to do anyway. We can understand someone dying for a person worth dying for, and we can understand how someone good and noble could inspire us to selfless sacrifice. But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we were of no use whatever to him”
The older I get the more I realize just how much I don’t know and how much more I still need to learn. I am going to be 30 this year, yup there I said it haha the big three zero. I don’t know what it is and anyone who is my age might be able to relate but when I got to my late twenties I had a bit of a panic attack because I realized that all of the dreams and plans I had for when I was this age hadn’t happened yet or at least not in the way I thought it would.
The only thing that did happen was “change”
- my plans changed
- people around me changed
- I changed
- my circumstances changed
It made me feel so un easy and unsure about my future because I felt like I couldn’t trust even my own desires because the world around me was always changing and I couldn’t keep up to be quite honest.
In a previous series on the blog I wrote a post called “Quit fearing change” Where I speak about the change we control and the change we don’t control and the sooner we realize that freedom comes when we are fine with not being in control the better.
You see I got this revelation that has really stuck with me. Change is inevitable but if we can rest in the fact that we know change will take place in our lives it makes for a peaceful state of mind. At the end of the day the only thing we can rely on to NEVER CHANGE is God!
There should be a consistency that runs through us all. For Jesus doesn’t change—yesterday, today, tomorrow, he’s always totally himself.
I will end off with this quote
” You have to stop thinking you will be stuck in your situation forever. We feel like our hearts will never heal or we will never get out of tis impossible struggle. Don’t confuse this season for a lifetime, even your trials have an expiration date. You will grow, life will change, things will workout” – Brittney Moses