“Selena Gomez has just taken a plucky step in breaking her silence on those “rehab rumours”. The truth: the young singer has lupus and now she’s boldly opening up about it, and revealed that she’s been keeping an even bigger secret – she went through chemotherapy.
“I was diagnosed with lupus, and I’ve been through chemotherapy. That’s what my break was really about. I could’ve had a stroke,” Gomez says in a recent interview with Billboard magazine. She is referring back to 2013 when she had to cancel legs of her tour, which caused a burst in speculation as to what was keeping her away. Naturally the rumor mill started moving and soon the gossip was that Selena had checked into rehab.”
When I read this article by Grazia Daily I couldn’t help but think how this applies to our lives too. Why is it that we as humans feel that we can make assumptions about other people and then take it a step further and tell other people that it is the truth.
Rumours and assumptions are ugly and are in ill taste in my opinion.
a currently circulating story or report of uncertain or doubtful truth.
a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.
Both if these definitions basically state that the person bringing the information forward is 1. Uncertain about what the truth is, 2. They have no proof that what they are saying happened and 3. Because it has be accepted by society then that means it ok to keep spreading it.
Yes I get that Selena Gomez is a famous superstar in many peoples eyes, but she is also human and deserves her privacy ( how would we like it if our personal lives were purged all over the media? ) I for one would not be a happy camper. Rumours and assumptions have never helped anyone move forward in life, it also brings division and disunity amongst people we do not know as well as our own friends and family.
HOW CAN WE GET BETTER THE RUMOUR GAME?
1. STOP SPREADING THEM.
It only brings division and insecurity. Two things that we do not need in our lives if we want to keep moving forward in bettering ourselves.
2. STOP LISTENING TO THEM
If you happen to find yourself in a situation where people are talking about others behind their backs, feel free to kindly remove yourself from that conversation or try change the subject.
for e.g: if someone says ” OMG did you hear that she/he got fired because …… ( you fill in the blank ) “
then your response could be, ” oh really? I haven’t heard that from them. I am sure that what ever happened God has the best for their future, its none of our business anyway.”
If you stand up for someone then you have put your foot down and shown where you stand on the topic. That person who told you the rumour probably will not chat to you about that kind of thing again because they know that you will not fuel the fire.
3. DON’T LET IT AFFECT YOU IF THE RUMOUR HAS BEEN SPREAD ABOUT YOU
I know it is easier said than done but if you know in your heart of hearts that what people are saying about you is not true then you can rest assured knowing that it does not matter what others think about you. If the people who are spreading the rumours about you are your friends then sadly they probably are not your “real” friends. Friends have your best interests at heart and will stand up for you no matter what.
Even if what people are saying about you is true, it also does not matter. God deals with us in our own way. He is the judge and knows the ins and outs of or struggles. In John 10:14 it says “I am the good shepherd, and I know My own and My own know Me,”
No matter where we stand in our relationship with God he knows our hearts and everything about us but without having a relationship with God it is hard for God to change us. We have to be the ones who want to change. If you have ever struggled with rumours being told about you know that God is by your side always or maybe you are the one spreading them, its ok God’s grace is bigger than any mistake we could ever make.
Original Source: 1Africa Online Magazine